A Lesson in Dignity: How a Trip to the Philippines Changed My Perspective on Poverty Tourism

Earlier this year, I had the privilege of traveling to the Philippines, a country known for its breathtaking beaches, warm hospitality, and vibrant culture. But amid the beauty, I encountered something unexpected that challenged the way I viewed travel, aid, and the concept of "helping" others.

For the first time, I was introduced to the idea of poverty tourism — a practice where tourists visit impoverished communities to observe their way of life. While the intention may seem noble, the reality often strips people of their dignity, reducing their lives to a spectacle for outsiders. This realization hit me hard, and it forced me to reflect deeply on my own approach to supporting others.

A Hard Look at Good Intentions

During my trip, I had a chance to visit a local community that was struggling with limited resources. At first, I felt the familiar urge to document the experience — a photo here, a photo there. It wasn’t for vanity, I told myself. It was to raise awareness, to show others the reality of life for people in these circumstances.

But then, I had a conversation with a local guide that stopped me in my tracks. He gently asked, “When you share these stories or photos, whose story are you telling? Is it about them — or you?”

That question stung. I realized that even well-meaning actions, like snapping a photo of a smiling child playing in front of a rundown home, could unintentionally harm. It could reduce their life to an image, reinforcing stereotypes and turning their reality into a backdrop for my personal narrative.

As someone who has always emphasized the importance of mindset, respect, and action, this moment was humbling. I had to ask myself: was I truly helping, or was I unconsciously participating in something performative?

Rethinking How We Help

This experience made me rethink the way I approach aid, especially as someone who has built a career and a movement around empowerment and transformation. I realized that genuine help is not about swooping in to "save" others or showcasing their struggles — it’s about respecting their dignity and supporting their growth on their terms.

Here’s what I learned about how we can help responsibly:

1. Listen Before Acting
Every community has its own strengths and solutions. Before offering help, take the time to understand their challenges from their perspective. Ask what they need instead of assuming what’s best.

2. Focus on Empowerment, Not Pity
The people I met in the Philippines didn’t need pity. They needed opportunities, respect, and a platform to share their own stories. Supporting local businesses or amplifying local voices can make a more meaningful impact than a one-time act of charity.

3. Respect Privacy and Consent
One of the most eye-opening lessons was about the power of consent. Sharing a photo might seem harmless, but without permission, it can strip someone of their agency. Instead, focus on sharing stories with their input and approval — stories that highlight their resilience and accomplishments, not just their struggles.

4. Build Long-Term Partnerships
Real change doesn’t come from dropping off donations or taking a single trip. It comes from sustained support. Whether it’s through partnering with a reputable local organization or committing to regular contributions, long-term advocacy creates lasting impact.

The Power of Self-Reflection

This experience wasn’t just about what I learned about others — it was also about what I learned about myself. I had to confront my own motivations and ask hard questions:

• Was I trying to make a real difference, or was I just seeking to feel good about myself?

• Was I centring the experience on the community, or was I unintentionally making it about me?

• What could I do differently to lead by example in a way that truly aligns with my values of respect, empowerment, and mindset?

As someone who’s spent years advocating for health, wealth, and mindset transformation, I realized that this moment was another step in my personal journey. Growth doesn’t stop at the gym or the office — it’s in how we show up for others, too.

Changing the Narrative

When I returned home, I knew I had to share this experience — not to shame anyone, but to inspire others to think differently about how we engage with vulnerable communities.

Here’s what I would encourage anyone to consider before they act:

• Shift the Focus: Instead of showcasing struggles, highlight the community’s strengths and resilience.

• Share Responsibly: Ask yourself if your post or action centres you, or the people you’re trying to support.

• Think Long-Term: How can you make your support sustainable and meaningful?

A Call to Action: Lead With Respect

My trip to the Philippines was a turning point for me. It reminded me that transformation isn’t just about physical health or financial success — it’s about how we treat others and the legacy we leave behind.

As I continue to build the Shed Talk Movement and share stories of growth and resilience through Shed Talk, I’m committed to amplifying this message: help should never come at the cost of someone’s dignity. Whether in health, wealth, or community support, the goal should always be empowerment, not exploitation.

Let’s move away from performative aid and embrace genuine, respectful support. The next time you find yourself in a position to help, ask: “Am I respecting the humanity of this person or community? Am I creating real change?”

Together, we can lead by example and make a meaningful difference — one that uplifts everyone involved. If my journey has taught me anything, it’s this: growth starts with recognizing where we’ve fallen short and choosing to do better. Let’s choose better, together.